Ignite Your Heart and Soul with Sara Troy and her guest Ani Anderson
Take Your Relationship to the Next Level!
What would it look like if you were going to take your relationship to the next level?
Relationships that are clear are compatible. But you are past compatibility. You are reaching for more. Life is constantly expanding and so are you. Which area of life are you interested in growing the most right now?
- Intellectual
- Spiritual
- Financial
- Vocational
- Family
- Social
- Physical
Once this is clearly defined, you and your partner can begin to create a plan to get to your desired goals. Not that plans always work out, but because it’s important to have a path and take advantage of opportunities as they arise.
Inherent in the plans of a “next level” partnership is sharing. Taking what you have cultivated and sharing it with others in a bigger way than you ever have before. So I encourage you to think about how you can take the wealth of goodness that you’ve cultivated in your own life and teach, influence and inspire others.
Would you like help in crafting that vision? You’ve got two options. You can go it alone, or you can get some coaching. As you probably already know, coaching is a fun way to gain a deeper sense of awareness of yourself, your partner and your vision so that you can experience all the richness that this life has to offer you!
If you would love to talk more about coaching, I invite you to have a chat with me about our options for serving next level couples, like yourself. Just click on my email address (info@anianderson.com) and in the subject line put “next level” and we’ll give you the details!
Great relationships make life worth living!
In Joy-
Ani Anderson
PS- Whenever you’re ready, here are 3 ways you can go deeper today…
1) Grab a copy of our book, Find Your Soul’s Agenda– It’s our #1 strategy to help you identify both your purpose and your most habitual self sabotaging patterns. Click here for the book site.
2) Join the Soul’s Agenda Circle– It’s our facebook community where intentional difference makers gather to support each others growth. Click here to join the community.
3) Work with us privately– If you’re ready to learn how eliminate negative emotions of fear, anger, sadness, anxiety and stress so you can be a positive light force in the world- click here! We’ll get back to you with a time to chat!
How to Spice Up a Mediocre Partnership
Have you ever gone to sleep on the opposite side of the bed of your partner and wondered… “What am I doing with this person?”
I used to. I vacillated between thinking it was him… it was me… it wasn’t mean’t to be… when it really was an issue with relationship clarity.
For most partnerships, there isn’t a compatibility issue, there is a clarity issue. SO many things that are unclear. Without clarity there is a lack of awareness. Whatever we are unaware of, we can not change. What can can’t change doesn’t grow. And what isn’t growing drags us down and drains our vitality.
Is your relationship continually growing into vitality?
If not, here are some things you need to be clear on in order to have a successful partnership:
- What are your goals? What are your partner’s goals?
- What are your deal breakers (must have’s in relationship)? (I hope that your and your partner’s deal breakers are the same!)
- What will you spend your money on?
- What is your purpose? Their purpose?
- What is the labor distribution in the house?
- What are your ideals and agreements around sex?
- How will you handle decision making? Conflict?
Once these things are clearly defined you can begin to expand further into them… further into your goals, purpose, sexual expression and fun! Where do you wish you were expanding further with your partner right now… the Bedroom? Business? Recreation?
Relationships that are clear KNOW that they are compatible. And with that clarity comes confidence, purpose and passion.
If your relationship is lacking vitality, where do you start? You’ve got two options. You can go it alone, or you can get some coaching. Why get coaching? Because it takes less time and is less risky than trying to figure it our by yourself. And unless you’re having mental health issues, why reach for therapy when coaching can be more effective?*
If you desire more clarity in your relationship, I invite you to have a clarity session. Just click on my email address (info@anianderson.com) and in the subject line put “clarity session” and we’ll give you the details!
Great relationships make life worth living!
In Joy-
Ani Anderson
*Findings based my findings as an occupational therapist, having over 2 decades of personal experience serving therapists as clients, and clients who have had years of therapy.
PS- Whenever you’re ready, here are 3 ways you can go deeper today…
1) Grab a copy of our book, Find Your Soul’s Agenda– It’s our #1 strategy to help you identify both your purpose and your most habitual self sabotaging patterns. Click here for the book site.
2) Join the Soul’s Agenda Circle– It’s our facebook community where intentional difference makers gather to support each others growth. Click here to join the community.
3) Work with us privately– If you’re ready to learn how eliminate negative emotions of fear, anger, sadness, anxiety and stress so you can be a positive light force in the world- click here! We’ll get back to you with a time to chat!
Find Relationship Clarity
“I know you’re upset when you start throwing the dishes around in the sink” my husband said one day. And he was right. I wouldn’t actually say that I was upset, I would show him and hope that he caught on. It was like that with many things in our relationship. Many things were left unsaid and I secretly hoped he would read my mind and “get it.”
For most partnerships, there isn’t a compatibility issue, there is a clarity issue. SO many things that are unclear. Without clarity there is a lack of awareness. Whatever we are unaware of, we can not change.
Here are some things you need to be clear on in order to have a successful partnership:
- What are your goals? What are your partner’s goals?
- What are your deal breakers (must have’s in relationship)? (I hope that your and your partner’s deal breakers are the same!)
- What will you spend your money on?
- What is your purpose? Their purpose?
- What is the labor distribution in the house?
- What are your ideals and agreements around sex?
- How will you handle decision making? Conflict?
Relationships that are clear on these things KNOW that they are compatible. And with that clarity comes confidence, purpose and passion.
If you don’t have clarity, where do you start? You’ve got two options. You can go it alone, or you can get some coaching. Why get coaching? Because it takes less time and is less risky than trying to figure it our by yourself. And unless you’re having mental health issues, why reach for therapy when coaching can be more effective?*
If you desire more clarity in your relationship, I invite you to have a clarity session. Just click on my email address (info@anianderson.com) and in the subject line put “clarity session” and we’ll give you the details!
Great relationships make life worth living!
In Joy-
Ani Anderson
*Findings based my findings as an occupational therapist, having over 2 decades of personal experience serving therapists as clients, and clients who have had years of therapy.
PS- Whenever you’re ready, here are 3 ways you can go deeper today…
1) Grab a copy of our book, Find Your Soul’s Agenda– It’s our #1 strategy to help you identify both your purpose and your most habitual self sabotaging patterns. Click here for the book site.
2) Join the Soul’s Agenda Circle– It’s our facebook community where intentional difference makers gather to support each others growth. Click here to join the community.
3) Work with us privately– If you’re ready to learn how eliminate negative emotions of fear, anger, sadness, anxiety and stress so you can be a positive light force in the world- click here! We’ll get back to you with a time to chat!
Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day, like any holiday, has the capacity to leave us feeling like something is missing from life. Whether we don’t feel like we are the best mom we can be to our kids or we feel like our relationship with our mom is less than ideal… Mother’s Day can leave us feeling “less than”.
If you are feeling anything but radiantly loved and appreciated this Mother’s Day… read on.
A few years back I dreaded Mother’s Day before it even arrived. Having experience with not being acknowledged with cards, gifts and and acts of service such as having breakfast made for me, I braced myself for the lack of appreciation I would receive. I “did pretty good” I thought… keeping it all together… until half way through the day when, I don’t even remember what prompted it, I burst into tears about how much it hurt that my husband, who was not my children’s dad, didn’t even consider recognizing me for Mother’s Day or helping to facilitate acts of appreciation from my children. Of course it didn’t help that my children’s father didn’t take the initiative to help them in this department either. So there I was feeling like a 3 year old myself for wanting more and not having it. This was only one of the many times I allowed my “little self” to be seen by my husband in order to let him know how I was feeling, as humiliating as it seemed to be acting (what felt) so “childish”.
I’m not going to continue by telling you that he and my children now get me cards and gifts, or that I feel great on Mother’s Day even when I don’t get acknowledgement. I’m not going to tell you about happy smiles, butterflies and unicorns and how thinking positive fixes everything. The point of the story is that everything that shows up in our circumstances – everything – is an opportunity for us to get more of what we WANT in our lives. Every circumstance is an opportunity. Even the ones (especially the ones) that feel like shit.
If you are feeling anything less than radiantly loved and appreciated this Mother’s Day I have a tip for you. Look at the reality of what is happening that you don’t like. Look at it. Acknowledge it. Cry about it if you feel like crying. And then say to yourself… this circumstance is happening to me so that I can learn something, heal something, see something, love something so that I CAN enjoy the life I WANT to have. And then give yourself permission to say what needs to be said and do whatever needs to be done today so that you can feel lighter in your body. Do you need to tell someone how you feel? Write it down? Go for a walk? Exercise? Cry? Laugh? Read a book? Sit on the couch? Let the house be messy? Have oatmeal for dinner? Watch a funny show or movie? Do you need yell at the top of your lungs in your car then go home and read fart jokes to your kids so you can laugh?
Give yourself permission to be human. A natural human being. Today… let that be enough.
You are the perfect mother or daughter just the way you are. Your family needs you to be exactly as you are. You are whole. You are love. Give yourself permission today (and every day) to be exactly as you are. You will feel lighter in your body and mind… and your family will thank you too… eventually!
Happy Mother’s Day!
-Ani Anderson
